Yesterday Diana gave you some great tips on changing your perspective from wanting something to preferring something.  And that felt pretty good, didn’t it? Amazing how substituting one word for another can make a real difference.

Are you ready to look at another simple change in the way you say things that will make your words and energy line up to get the results you prefer?

First, think of something you would like to do today.  Pick something that is not an absolute “must,” but something you would like to do.

Now, fill in this blank with that something:
“Today I will try to _______________________.”

Take a breath and notice how that feels. Do you feel committed to doing it? Do you feel optimistic you will do it?  Do you feel solid, wishy washy, undecided, empowered, on the fence?  Do you feel a combination of these things, all at the same time?

In my experience, when I say I will “try” to do something, I feel the same kind of energy that I do when I say “maybe.” I am thinking about doing something and I don’t yet have both my feet on the “I really prefer to do this” side of my decision line.

I have also discovered that I use “try” to give myself an “out” because I am afraid that I really won’t be able to make what I prefer to have happen actually happen. And sometimes when “try” pops out of my mouth, it let’s me know that what I think I want to do and what I truly prefer to do are not matching up.

Wow…what a powerful little word “try” is! By using it to help sort out our preferences and set our priorities, it narrows down how we use our time and energy to create results that really matter to us.  And once we are clear on those, our “inner mental organizer” gets busy working on ways to make what we prefer happen.

And, when you use “try” to help you get clearer on what you prefer, you can more easily line up your energy with the words you say.  Here’s a substitute for “try” that helps me do that:

“Today I will do my best to __________________.”

Go ahead and fill in the blank with the “to do” you used above.

Now, how does that feel?  Is it still a real preference? If it is, does it feel more possible? More likely to happen? Easier to do?  Like a path has been cleared? 

Let’s take this one step further.

Throughout your day, notice when you use the word “try” and then restate the statement or thought with “Today I will do my best to__________.” See if you feel good and get better results when you say this. If you do, add it to your toolbox!

One more really cool thing…by saying you will do your best, you make being your best and doing your best a bigger part of who you are.

And no matter what, your best is always, always more than good enough.

Just Imagine That !