Words are one of the most powerful tools we have in interacting with other people.

We can make someone’s day brighter by giving them a sincere compliment. Or crush them with unkind words. This is an inherent power that we use whether we’re consciously aware of it or not.

And, at least sometimes, we all use language purposefully. During interactions that are important to us, we are usually very deliberate about the words we choose – doing our best to convey just the thought and feeling that we intend.

In our marketing and sales communications, for example, we often labor over just the right words for some time.

Much of our casual communication, though, is more spontaneous, and comes more from habit than careful thought.

You may think that this is not a big deal. You say the things you say, and other people will interpret them however they will.

That’s true.

When you speak, though, there are always two people who hear you, and two people who get a message from your words. The person you are talking to, and YOU.

And you hear yourself much more often than anyone else does.

Have you ever “talked yourself into” feeling something simply by saying it over and over? I know I have.

This week we’re going to explore how your language reflects your inner thoughts, and give you some examples of ways you can make small changes in your daily communications that can open possibilities and change your perspective.

Here’s a simple one:

When someone invites you to do something and you decide to decline, what do you say first?

Most people respond with some version of “no”, usually followed by “thanks.”

What happens if you simply reverse the order of your words – expressing your gratitude for the invitation before turning it down? It’s a small thing that can have a big effect on how your words are perceived. And, it reminds you that you are grateful for their thought!

Just Imagine That!